There is the story in Numbers 22 where Balaam heard God speak to him through a donkey. He actually heard a voice with his ears. He did not hear God with his heart, and he ended up causing a stumbling block to God’s people.
Most of us don’t hear God speak “out loud” to us, nor will our children. We must learn to hear God with our hearts, and we must train our kids to hear God with their hearts. How do we do that and what does it look like? (more…)
Last year, we were fortunate to see Will marry Maria. At their wedding the photographer looked around for fitting backgrounds for the bride and groom pictures. In the chapel, outside, near the door, in front of trees, in front of fountains, and on and on. He took a lot of time on the background, but when the pictures came, we didn’t really notice the backgrounds. We noticed the couple.
Here’s the point: the background supported and focused on the real object of the picture, the bride and groom.
As Patricia and I grew and matured as parents, we realized that certain structures supported our relationships in the home. Order enhanced our lives together. We choose to call these background disciplines. These background disciplines are the unnoticed sentinels that maintain the peace and harmony within a home. The better you manage, the less you punish. (more…)
What do you think about when you think of home? Do you have warm memories that bring you thoughts of laughter, good food, feelings of being loved and cared for? It’s possible that wasn’t your experience as you grew up and passed from childhood into adulthood. Your past does not have to deﬁne your future.
A woman is the heart of the home. Through loving hands and loving heart the very nature of God himself is expressed. He was the ﬁrst one to create a beautiful place for his own creatures to enjoy. It’s in his heart to make a place of comfort, warmth, happiness and then say, “Enjoy. It is for you.” (more…)
My son Will sent me an article from the Canadian Medical Association Journal. Its title clearly says, “Spanking Undermines a Child’s Long-Term Development.”
I knew I shouldn’t have spanked him for standing up in his high-chair at age two. It made him more aggressive and violent. The last time we were at his house, we sat down to eat and Will stood up in his chair. His 6’3″ frame towered over the table and guests, frowning down upon us, and looking like his undermined development was about to act out in chaotic violence. We all cowered in fear.
Just kidding! (more…)